325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet

Unseen, unheard, undervalued – have you ever felt like that? As our guest this week, Dr. Janina Scarlet, a licensed clinical psychologist, points out, these feelings, while understandable, can be overcome. In Janina’s mission to de-stigmatize loneliness and help people connect and support one another, she authored the book ‘Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued: Managing Loneliness, Loss of Connection and Not Fitting in’ which serves as the backdrop for the conversation in this episode. You’ll hear how to combat loneliness by understanding its dimensions, talking more about our experiences with loneliness, and seeking emotional support and self-compassion. Janina also offers many helpful tips, from finding and cultivating a ‘chosen family’ who truly sees, hears, and values you to transforming how you feel and react to shame. Don’t miss this enriching conversation with Dr. Janina Scarlett!

Listen and Learn: 

  • What inspired Janina to write a book that de-stigmatizes the experience of loneliness
  • Why psychical loneliness and the feeling of loneliness are not the same thing 
  • The components of loneliness – to be unseen, unheard, and unvalued. 
  • How to change the way you respond to shame 
  • How loneliness can be addressed differently
  • The significance of forming relationships with people who see, hear, and value you 
  • How to speak about and address your own feelings of loneliness using Janina’s ‘journaling in two parts’ exercise
  • Using ‘savoring’ as a practice to experience being fully present   
  • Finding your ‘chosen family’ 


About Janina Scarlet 

Dr. Janina Scarlet is a licensed clinical psychologist, an award-winning author, and a full-time geek. A Ukrainian-born refugee, she survived Chernobyl radiation and persecution. She immigrated to the United States at the age of 12 with her family and later, inspired by the X-Men, developed Superhero Therapy to help patients with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Dr. Scarlet is the recipient of the Eleanor Roosevelt Human Rights Award by the United Nations Association for her work on Superhero Therapy. Her work has been featured on Yahoo!, the BBC, NPR, Sunday Times, CNN, CW, ABC, The New York Times, Forbes and many other outlets. She regularly consults on books and television shows, including HBO’s The Young Justice. She was also portrayed as a comic book character in Gail Simone’s Seven Days graphic novel. Dr. Scarlet is the Lead Trauma Specialist at the Trauma and PTSD Healing Center and the Lead Creativity Coach at Creative Community in San Diego, California.

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Episode 325