271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay

Friendships matter deeply for our mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. But unlike kids, adults generally don’t knock on their neighbors’ doors and say, “Hey wanna come outside and play?” Making and keeping friends in adulthood is tricky (to say the least). Join us for a special conversation about friendship. In the first half of this episode, Yael and Debbie discuss how they see some of the issues in cultivating friendships in adulthood. The second half of this episode features clinical psychologist, Adam Dorsay, whose TEDx talk, Friendships in Adulthood: Five Things to Know lays out important ideas we can all learn from. Tune in to learn about common challenges and tips for overcoming them, what to look for in friends, how to be a good friend yourself, and much more.

Listen and Learn:

  • The science behind why quality (not quantity) friendships are so important in adulthood
  • Common challenges to making friends in adulthood
  • The problem of loneliness
  • The challenges inherent in investing in adult friendships relationships
  • The dangers of expecting too much of any one friend and how to overcome that challenge
  • Ideas for finding new friends
  • Considerations in choosing friends
  • Understanding what being a good friend looks like
  • Data on why is friendship good for our love lives

About Adam Dorsay

Dr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and a certified executive coach working in private practice in San Jose, CA. He is the co-creator of Project Reciprocity, a resiliency program based out of FaceBook’s headquarters. In 2021, Adam was a featured TEDx speaker on the topic of friendships in adulthood. 


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Adam’s TEDx talk: Friendships in Adulthood: Five Things to Know 

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Episode 271